My Journey Through Life..

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Skill You Must Own in Life (2) : Be Alone

OK, I have the unknown urge to do this intermezzo by talking about a fragment of life thing, but, yeah, here I come..

Another thing that I’ve experienced a lot in life is being alone. Not single and not having love-relationship-alone but more like alone literally. Only be with myself and no people surrounding. I’m sure still living with my dad and mom but somehow in a day, the ratio of me meeting them and not meeting them goes more to the latter. My mom’s working, sometimes from 8 AM to 9 PM and my dad takes her to work and picks her up. Sometimes when my parents at home, I’m not.
I think I can broaden the boundary a little bit larger by including ‘surrounded by strangers/people we don’t know at all’ in this category. I don’t really experience being literally alone that much but the 2nd condition do exists quite often.

That’s a little bit of background story..

In addition of what I’ve stated, you don’t necessarily leave with no one since this condition happens quite naturally. Sometimes your friends/family is busy and you’re left alone. Sometimes you do your ‘me time’ and take a stroll with no proper plans, just going and doing something impulsively. Stuffs like that. Being alone is pretty hard for some people since some people tend to need others to talk with and that’s why this skill is important. At some points in your life, you’ll certainly meet find yourself in this situation and you can’t and may not get stressed out just by being alone.

For me, since I’m kinda used to it (and prefer to be alone at most points, being around 4 to 5 people is still acceptable, though), I usually do my hobby during that time. I do blogging, drawing, sometimes playing music (even though I’m suc* at it), singing with my terrible voice, and so on. Listening to some musics would be a great help. Basically, during that time, you’re only be with yourself so you can only rely to yourself. You should be able to help yourself in any kind of tasks.

Another solution is taking a stroll around the city. With no plans at all, somehow I can spend hours strolling around with my motorbike. You don’t need to spend your time on the road. You can treat yourself some snacks or meals, going to some point of interests in your city, stopping for a while to enjoy some beautiful views, visiting book store or library to enhance your knowledge or simply read fun magazines or books, etc etc. Having a cup of tea or coffee is sufficient to enjoy your solitude, I believe. Possibilities are tons. Somehow by being alone, I can spend a lot of money only for snacks/meals. 😀

Fresh air might help you if you’re hitting hard times in your life. Enjoying nature or going somewhere further than you usually go/visit might help clear and refresh your mind a little (if you’re living in a packed city). Seeing mountain, sea, beach, hills, or any other mother nature products might be the best way to spend your ‘me time’. Just seeing or contemplating, or even better, doing nothing, just pure gazing.

Being alone shouldn’t make you more intense or stressed, just enjoy the time while being alone. At some points you won’t be with anyone or won’t need anyone. At that time, you’ll only need yourself to handle and be handled. Last but not least, thank you for reading this life lesson (or total nonsense but this is what I’m thinking about), give me words if you have opinions, leave like if you enjoy reading my stories and thought, follow my Instagram account for some foodie trips @bitethefood, and stay tuned for my next stories.

CHEERS AND HAVE A GREAT DAY!!



I also do some artworks (in self-practice as well, actually), if you’d like to visit, you are very welcomed to my Artstation and Patreon profile.

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and also selling some original merchandise at Redbubble and Threadless
*Sorry, get to promote everything, but, yeah, my effort on living my dream may be starting from the very bottom*

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Skill You Must Own in Life (1) : Anger Management

First thing first, before I talk about content, I’m gonna say that this article won’t be a long, or even medium one. I’ll try to pack my core into a pretty short passage but you can extract a lot of thing inside (aside from the intro). Since I’m not a psychologist, doctor, or master in this topic, I can’t sugarcoat anything. I just talk based on pure experience and what I feel personally.

Let’s start..

Having emotion is for everybody and this time, I’m gonna talk specifically about anger. Yep, anger is like a part of human’s life. Everybody has been angry about something or someone even for the slightest reason. Once again, I’m not an expert in this area, so I’m talking only based on experience. Since anger is a part of everyone and kind of hurting others, we need to do something that divert it to a better position.

I, for example, am an oftenly-get-angry guy but when I’m with others, I won’t take that out. For a gamer like me, having a lagging game or keep losing at the exact same spot (yes, sometimes I’m a terrible gamer) might pull the angry trigger in me. However, the worst thing I usually did was cursing or slamming my table on the spot with no one hearing, so I think I didn’t do damage to others.

However, there are some people who can’t control their anger very well. They usually bring the anger that was caused by some stuffs prior, and blazing them to other people they meet like a friggin’ shotgun. Take an example of like an office worker that had a rough day during working hours. Probably he was being scolded by his boss/supervisors but it’s impossible to fire it back at that time. Thus, the impact went to his colleague or families or friends during hangout, for example. That could be ‘dangerous’ since it could affect his relation with others, especially family. Even worst thing might happen if it’s continuously happen.

Therefore, taking your anger out is important but it has to be with proper way, for example, doing your hobby. Doing what you love may reduce anger quite effectively. Or taking your excessive force into useful thing like martial arts, sports, or punching bag (in gym or game center). I’ve tried this way and I think that is very effective.

I can simply conclude that anger is a very destructive energy hence storing it is a bad move. It’s like saving destructive energy, similar to volcano, that could go KABOOM!! anytime and I’m pretty sure at that time, a lot of damage will be done. It’s better to take it little by little in the right ways as long as it doesn’t hurt/harm/jeopardize others. Emotion control or in this case ‘anger management’, is an important skill to master and own. Let me know what you think at the comment section.

“You may have a big gun, but take it to a shooting range, not the street.”

 

CHEERS AND HAVE A GREAT DAY!!



I also do some artworks (in self-practice as well, actually), if you’d like to visit, you are very welcomed to my Artstation and Patreon profile.

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and also selling some original merchandise at Redbubble
*Sorry, get to promote everything, but, yeah, my effort on living my dream may be starting from the very bottom*

Thank you. :D*


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Great Battle in My Mind : Talent vs Hard Work

OK, so here’s what I think about when people are talking about ‘talent’ and ‘hard work’. So I think, basically as probably most people know and understand, talent is given when you are born. The very day you’re born, you carry something in your pocket that could be very mesmerizing if you enhance it for all your life. Meanwhile, hard work is, well.., it’s like building something you’d like to do completed with blood, sweat, and tears.

Now my biggest question of it :

How do you know what talent you have?

Nobody will say to you “Hey, you have talent in X” or so, even you’re good at X. Maybe if you don’t really practice X a lot, the skill is getting dull at one point. What I believe is, talent won’t get dull at any point since you’re naturally talented since you’re born. Nobody will be able to tell what your talents are (in my opinion) but the only one who can spot them is yourself, but how?

Let’s say if one people now is good at playing piano. I believe that his current skill is the result of any courses, lessons, and practice he’s taken probably since he was young. But, doesn’t it mean it’s hard work? He worked his might off with years of practice, exercises, and so on so now he pick the ripe fruit of what he ‘sowed’ before. Both talent and hard work could do it and probably have equal results, again IMO.

Another case, let’s say there are people A and B, they love gymnastics. Right now, they have 0 knowledge at all about gymnastics so they start at the same line. In 20 years, they both become impressive gymnasts, mastering about the same techniques, skills, and have really great achievements. So, which one have talent in gymnastics (or both)? Which one is hard worker (or both)? I personally won’t be able to distinguish that easily. Maybe we can track their process and life journey. I’ve discussed this thing with some friends and they said that probably the talented one will achieve it easier than the other. Probably the hard worker need more effort at achieving something compared to the other one. It actually makes sense since the talented one is given specific ‘weapon’ to do his battle in life meanwhile the other has to craft it himself during battle. But with proper efforts from them both, they can actually achieve the same results.

To my own case, I’m learning digital painting now. It’s not just once or twice, some people said to me, “If you don’t have talent in that, you can’t move up”. Well, being rock-headed I am, I just think “You all can say what you want, but I’ll keep doing this and I won’t stop short term”. Even if I have no talent (which is I don’t even know, I can find out it yet), I can still use the hard work option to get what I want in life. I hope my results equals to some talented people’s. Since the day I learnt digital painting for the first time and up to nowadays, I get some improvements. It’s not much because it’s only 1.5 years apart, but I’m certainly improved and I’m planning to keep improving to the state where I can surpass some people I admire.

What I’m trying to say (to conclude my all-over-the-place thought) is, it doesn’t matter if you think you have no talent in something (but I believe everyone has at least 1 talent), as long as you’re willing to dedicate your life into that thing, you won’t be disappointed in the results. Talents are quite mysterious, nobody will be able to state to the others what talent they have. It’s no exact matter like mathematics or physics which has certain right and wrong points. You need to discover them yourself, but it might not be your real talent. So you need to properly examine yourself to get the beautiful truth about it as I will do to mine as well. 🙂

This time is quite different than my foodie reviews, but this matter is certainly bugging my mind a little bit. Stay tuned for my next posts, AGAIN, THIS IS JUST MY HONEST OPINION, if you have different ones, you can state them in comment section so we can probably discuss more, give like if you like it, and as always..

 

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I also do some artworks (in self-practice as well, actually), if you’d like to visit, you are very welcomed to my Artstation and Patreon profile.

Patreon

Artstation

and also selling some original merchandise at Redbubble
*Sorry, get to promote everything, but, yeah, my effort on living my dream may be starting from the very bottom*

Thank you. :D*


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Passion vs Survival : Which One?

Hello, everyone!

Today’s topic is my thought about a great battle between something called Passion and Survival. This might not a big case for many people, but it sure is for my life. Regarding on my previous post (read here), which is about me aiming to be a professional on design / drawing field, I’ve found the core problem to this.

Right now, I am dealing with my (let’s call it) passion since I like love it and I want to make money from this. The bigger problem is, right now I can’t. I can’t make money from this and right now I only practice and draw almost everyday (except when I’m busy with other important things). I think, well, it might not be my time yet to be productive in this area, but sometimes I also think ‘Is this not my way?’. The later one is quite a shock for me if I think about it more. If it isn’t my way, then why the heck am I still doing this?

NO!

I know there is a possibility for that option, but I choose to fight more, practice more, draw more and planning to get better and excel in this. I have to think positively and hope that there will be a time that this is really my thing. However, facing that problem, there’s another question, ‘how am I gonna survive, at least for now?’. I can apply for a another kind of job in some companies (outside my passion, become a salaryman, for instance) and even though I’m hired, I might do well there (with jobs, colleagues, bosses, environment, etc). I’m pretty sure I can make decent money from that, though. What concern me most that is not what I really want to do.

Right now, I’m planning on getting a job in a company (it’s OK if it’s not what I really want), at least I can survive right now. Meanwhile, I’ll keep practicing to draw or make design as a side activities. I think it’s the best plan for now since I can’t make decent money by design or drawing, but I surely hope in the future, that dream can come true.

This is a sample of what I usually do but I made this about a year ago :

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Simple Design of Traditional Hand-Axe

More in my Artstation and Patreo😀

So, what do you think is the best I should do right now? Comment down below if you have any constructive ideas.

Cheers!!

*well, another short post, isn’t it? hahahaha*